tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post2694432282584005713..comments2023-04-18T07:29:58.926-04:00Comments on The Real Matt Daddy: 3 Myths About At-Home DadsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-2935512111593502282012-05-25T16:55:33.289-04:002012-05-25T16:55:33.289-04:00YES! I agree 100%. When given the same amount of ...YES! I agree 100%. When given the same amount of support and education, a father can care for a child just as well as a mother can. The only things we can't do are give birth and breastfeed. Thanks for the comment!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-25166914766305174482012-05-25T16:54:26.966-04:002012-05-25T16:54:26.966-04:00Great! Glad that you were able to find me. Those ...Great! Glad that you were able to find me. Those Daily Buzz Moms people are pretty great. Now if I could only get them to change the name to Daily Buzz Parents...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-53101418098216446562012-05-25T16:53:38.624-04:002012-05-25T16:53:38.624-04:00I understand that there are extreme cultural diffe...I understand that there are extreme cultural differences around the world. Change is never fast, especially when trying to change thousands of years of cultural expectations. But I wouldn't give up! Dr. King didn't give up when people told him he couldn't change the culture. It cost him his life, but change eventually came. Hopefully, you can make a difference where you are.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-4638383436902582962012-05-24T10:03:23.322-04:002012-05-24T10:03:23.322-04:00What a great post. My husband and I share the chil...What a great post. My husband and I share the childcare equally both doing 2 days (and together at weekends). He does things completely differently to me and our son benefits from the differences in our styles. I think some mums unintentionally stand in the way of allowing their husbands to be great dads by not giving them the space to do stuff for and with their kids.The Monkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02015980234917286789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-57793818825200810712012-05-21T14:43:22.130-04:002012-05-21T14:43:22.130-04:00I love this- I'm coming by way of DailyBuzz M...I love this- I'm coming by way of DailyBuzz Moms- I have several friends who were former Engineers and military men who chose to stay home to care for the kids- Just as some moms are not as maternal, there are some dad who are highly paternal (in the best sense of that term)- the arrangement worked well for their families! Love this!triciahttp://crittersandcrayons.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-39814308672269576862012-04-06T13:37:11.989-04:002012-04-06T13:37:11.989-04:00Perfectly said, Matt.
However, you have to take ...Perfectly said, Matt. <br /><br />However, you have to take into consideration someone’s cultural. I’m currently residing in the Middle East where, fathers are expected to be providers, while mothers are tasked with raising the family. No matter how hard you try, this cultural difference will never change. <br /><br />I guess you could say I’m the “odd man out” in their world.Diplo_Daddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12349376430486545451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-67257769011895278622012-04-06T11:53:37.993-04:002012-04-06T11:53:37.993-04:00EXCELLENT post! I think I'll be sharing this ...EXCELLENT post! I think I'll be sharing this A LOT! :) Thanks for entering my Chick-fil-A contest too! At this point you will receive all the free meals since you are the only one entered. For some reason my readers don't like giveaways. Doesn't make a lot of sense to me. I always like to get something for free. Shan@FamilyBringsJoyShanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18306471627331886414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-34406079983521616352012-04-06T11:51:07.609-04:002012-04-06T11:51:07.609-04:00Here here! You are exactly right! Dad's are ...Here here! You are exactly right! Dad's are not babysitters they are parents!Shanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18306471627331886414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-694276365964322862012-04-05T19:03:51.077-04:002012-04-05T19:03:51.077-04:00Definitely. I realize you can't JUST take on t...Definitely. I realize you can't JUST take on the stigma of unemployment too. Unfortunately, though, it's all connected. But, that's what we're here for - our sites are all ongoing conversations, not just single speeches. We're all interconnected and constantly talking, and because of that, the culture - and hopefully society's perceptions - will evolve.Zach Rosenberghttp://www.8bitdad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-10365404809494285392012-04-05T14:30:56.021-04:002012-04-05T14:30:56.021-04:00So glad to hear that! Keep doing what's best ...So glad to hear that! Keep doing what's best for THEM and you will never regret it. Very glad to have "met" and (to some degree) inspired you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-91835094196430246152012-04-05T10:41:57.598-04:002012-04-05T10:41:57.598-04:00Matt - we had a similar discussion over on my site...Matt - we had a similar discussion over on my site when I wrote about "Proof Why Men Were Hunters." <br /><br />To kind of update you on it, I experienced everything you wrote about in this article during my five days with my wife out of town. My answers were a little different than yours - I don't do all that everyday - but I really understand where you're coming from. As I had mentioned, my article was written tongue-in-cheek, but I think the combination of doing daily activities with my girls that my wife usually does and reading the responses to my article (yours included) really got me moving in the direction of parenting, not being there. I don't believe I was a bad father before, but I'll admit that I did live by more of an old-school approach - the one I grew up with and that has obviously still propagated into modern day thinking.<br /><br />In short, thanks for helping to change my mindset even more. My relationship with my kids is stronger now (just after five days) and I feel better as a man. Keep on fathering!Big Danhttp://www.bigdansramblings.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-45547347378456519372012-04-05T08:36:00.350-04:002012-04-05T08:36:00.350-04:00Thanks. Keep on daddying.Thanks. Keep on daddying.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-3247297737955184692012-04-05T08:35:38.193-04:002012-04-05T08:35:38.193-04:00Thanks for clicking over! Glad you liked the artic...Thanks for clicking over! Glad you liked the article.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-72144235279542856722012-04-05T08:28:19.820-04:002012-04-05T08:28:19.820-04:00Zach, my article was already feeling a bit long-wi...Zach, my article was already feeling a bit long-winded, so I intentionally didn't go there. I think the stigma associated with unemployment is a nasty one, and it could take up several more blog posts. For the purposes of this article, I wanted to focus on the assumption that all dads out at the grocery store in the middle of the day must be unemployed. Thanks for bringing it up, and I hope that we can move that conversation forward someday as well.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-28639465149620824712012-04-05T08:24:46.065-04:002012-04-05T08:24:46.065-04:00Thanks for following! I hope we can continue to m...Thanks for following! I hope we can continue to move the conversation FORWARD, each in our own way. It is going to take both MEN and WOMEN to get these stereotypes to disappear. Women need to expect more from their men, and men need to live up to their calling as fathers AND train their sons to do the same.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-32786710630696681312012-04-04T20:40:08.341-04:002012-04-04T20:40:08.341-04:00I'm not a stay at home dad but it rings true f...I'm not a stay at home dad but it rings true for me too. I've been asked the 'Is daddy watching you today' question too and it is irritating because my role as a parent is just as important as my wife's role. And needs to remain specific, as you said. Kids need their DADS as much as they need their moms.<br />Good article Matt.jetts31https://www.blogger.com/profile/12921709684430981893noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-35786784558449451542012-04-04T19:11:37.862-04:002012-04-04T19:11:37.862-04:00Found this blog linked to in another blog...
I he...Found this blog linked to in another blog...<br /><br />I hear everything you're saying, and agree wholeheartedly. Get the word out there!Esmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10297973742540331610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-35128692834255675992012-04-04T18:23:00.009-04:002012-04-04T18:23:00.009-04:00I think we also need to shake the idea that being ...I think we also need to shake the idea that being unemployed isn't okay - for men and women. We look at it as a shameful thing. But in reality, if you're unemployed and are able to be so, that means your spouse is bringing in enough to support your home - which in this economy, is AWESOME. It's more of a shame when both parents have to work and the kid spends all day under a laundry basket in a daycare. When someone says "so you're unemployed?" The answer is "YES." Parenting isn't your paying job - again, that focuses on the money too much. Parenting is just what you do! It's not a job, it's not a hobby, it's just what you do. I forget the term that he government uses, but it was a term for parents not seeking employment. Anyway - that's what you are.<br /><br />Again, I think the real problem is that we look at "unemployment" as a bad thing - because typically up until now, if someone was unemployed, it meant you needed help. But in this economy, if you can afford to be unemployed, you should wear it loud and proud! Or, at least come up with another snarky response like "well, that's your term for it, yes."<br /><br />But, you're dead-on about the whole homemaker thing...women can be homemakers because we've pigeonholed them into it. Men can't because who could EVER imagine a man taking care of a home?! That's fuckin' crazy talk.<br /><br />Good article, Matt!Zach Rosenberghttp://www.8bitdad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-49890821755609142902012-04-04T17:48:20.421-04:002012-04-04T17:48:20.421-04:00Exactly my point on Twitter the other day. I heard...Exactly my point on Twitter the other day. I heard two different DADS reference what they were doing as "babysitting" and my blood started a slow boil. Why in the world would you downgrade your role as parent to one of babysitter? One of my Twitter followers made a great point about the difference between having a "father and a dad" shaping how some men view their role. I guess it could but I'm still perplexed (probably because I grew up with a "dad" and one who had a much more flexible schedule than my office-bound mom did so he and I spend LOTS of time together.<br /><br />Great post Matt!glamazinihttp://www.glamazini.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-24261777863710773832012-04-04T15:27:19.757-04:002012-04-04T15:27:19.757-04:00I try to think about other people's situations...I try to think about other people's situations that I might make assumptions about, but I usually try to avoid assumptions when I can. You would think that people would learn to avoid assumptions altogether, but we don't. As sophisticated as we are, humans can be dumb creatures sometimes. Thanks for stopping in!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05883725155851998665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-89213874585088861812012-04-04T14:44:20.825-04:002012-04-04T14:44:20.825-04:00Couldn't agree more. I've faced all 3 of t...Couldn't agree more. I've faced all 3 of these myths and they piss me off every time. I guess I just don't see what's so damn hard to understand about my situation.Adam @Hanging with Dadhttp://hangingwithdad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4921068312641413370.post-47207048998910045522012-04-04T09:22:21.245-04:002012-04-04T09:22:21.245-04:00Dead on, Matt.Dead on, Matt.Chris Routly (Daddy Doctrines)http://daddydoctrines.comnoreply@blogger.com